Happy 30th Birthday
It seemed like only yesterday that I stumbled into my 20’s, filled with wonder and excitement and promise. Now, I’m 30! Three decades old and counting. And you know what, I’m just fine with that. In fact, I feel great. Thankfully!
I held back the temptation to read online articles about turning “30 years old” in an attempt to keep my heart and mind as pure as possible with regards to opinions about my age and livelihood.
Over the past few days, I had a chance to reflect on some of the most pivotal lessons I learned during my 20’s:
Let It Go & Heal Now
I had a LOT of hurts and pains from past relationships and people in my life. As you read this, you probably can relate. But, I learned during my 20’s that you definitely need to let that pain go. Harboring un-forgiveness, hatred and anger towards someone or towards a group of people or a community cannot and will not help you. It’ll leave you bitter and alone.
After all, once you think about the issue and about the affect it had on your life, it probably wasn’t all that deep, especially when much worse could or probably has happened to you.
I’m healing now from a lot of my junk through healthier relationships, friends, my pastor, Christian counseling and simply enjoying life. If I waited till later to do this, my 30’s would’ve been an up-hill battle.
You Don’t Know It All (And You Don’t Have To)
I used to think during my 20’s that I HAD to know everything I possibly could about everything. This was driven by my desire to be, quite literally, the smartest brother in the room. I was not going to let somebody outsmart and outwit me. I had my guns ready to blaze.
Then, I found out over time that was meaningless.
The key around this is simply this….learn and ask questions. Seek WISDOM along with the KNOWLEDGE. If you just seek knowledge, you’ll walk around like a very informative fool with very little life application.
Also, stop trying to impress yourself or people around you with your intelligence and intellect. It is more impressive to be an excellent listener, a critical thinker, an inquisitive student and an action taker.
Be True To Yourself
So many 20-something’s want to front and flaunt because the world says it’s how to survive. The world gives this impression that the more real you are as a person, the more awkward you are, which is pretty ironic since so many people want you to supposedly “keep it real.”
If you want to pursue a career that others may find you crazy for doing, then do it! If you like watching cartoons and you’re an adult, have at it!
But, remember, use your 20’s to take care of business and work on being more yourself.
Your 20’s isn’t high school anymore, and, you can choose now or later to live in adulthood or a extended adolescence.
For me, puberty was bad enough. I’ll stick with my adulthood thank you!
You’re 30, Now What
As of late, I realized that in my 20’s, while I learned a lot of GREAT lessons, lessons that helped me become a better man and a better person, I also learned something else…something that is going to shift my very career path.
It is the only thing, really, that does make me feel just a little funny about being 30-years-old. And yet, I’m excited! I’m very excited! I’ll share more of these findings really soon.