For me, I learned that comparing myself to others is NOT healthy. It is not productive either. In fact, for me, its downright dangerous spiritually, mentally and physically and to be honest I believe that to be the same for all of us.
Think of the people who would stop trying to pretend to be something they are not, or stop people-pleasing or keep from unnecessary activities if they simply stopped comparing themselves to others.
Think of the great creative works that can unfold if people stopped trying to be like the other guy.
Think of people who would be helped, changed and dare I say it, transformed, if didn’t try to be like the person who seems to have it together, or rich or famous and seemingly liked by all.
When you compare yourself to other people it could lead to 3 things that I managed to point out during my personal time of study:
1. You forget to celebrate with others in great victories.
2. You consider your original accomplishments (if any) to be minimal and without value.
3. It is an unhealthy focus on someone or something else.
This is from 1 Samuel 18:6-9:
When the men were returning home after David had killed the Philistine, the women came out from all the towns of Israel to meet King Saul with singing and dancing, with joyful songs and with timbrels and lyres. As they danced, they sang:
“Saul has slain his thousands,
and David his tens of thousands.”
Saul was very angry; this refrain displeased him greatly. “They have credited David with tens of thousands,” he thought, “but me with only thousands. What more can he get but the kingdom?” And from that time on Saul kept a close eye on David.
A celebration occurred after David killed the Philistine giant, Goliath, and a song broke out for Saul and for David. But, Saul was not too happy with the fact that David was, as sung, killed “tens of thousands” whereas he killed his “thousands.”
Notice that Saul just couldn’t be happy with his “thousands.” That’s a pretty big accomplishment. Its not “tens of thousands,” but who cares right. Saul did, and to the point, that he grew angry and kept this unhealthy unproductive focus on David.
From then on, if you keep reading, Saul takes a deeper downturn to the point of death. His jealousy and his disconnection from God leads him to his inevitable death.
For me, I have to practice daily focusing myself on Christ and on His call on my life. It is THAT kind of focus that keeps me from comparing myself to others.